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Mary Beth Pemberton's avatar

Hi Jane ~

Thank you so much for this post. Perfect timing as I was teetering on a bit of self pity and this message nudged me over the edge to gratitude. To zone in specifically~ the message about feeling "non-spiritual" at times when I move "spiritually" as best I can, was exactly what I needed to hear. It allowed me to have compassion for the moments I "pop out" instead of hurrying back so I don't feel bad about, well, being human because, I am. So thank you.

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Jane Morgan's avatar

Aw I love this Mary Beth! Self pity is quite the pit (wheee!) it pulls at me all the time too. Good job letting gratitude win....and also omg right? We are human-ing along doing the best we can but sometimes it ain't pretty. Thank you so much for weighing in! xo

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Joy Reichart's avatar

I love the phrases 'bang letters onto the keyboard' and 'solid little black and white sculptures' ... and of course 'love' is an understatement. And the vivid, relatable, human, normalizing scene of the dishes at night. Yes, god, who can bear walking into a disaster of a kitchen in the morning. And the resentment at no one. And the banging. Angry squirrel is hilarious. We can't help it. These are my favorite scenes to read - the quotidian ones - because it makes the every day - even / especially our feels about it - beautiful. That's why you write too, at least from here. To hold up the translucent shell of a day and say 'look. It's gorgeous.' Right in line with AA Mike, actually, even if it feels discordant. Thank you for this Janey. Love you.

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Henriette Ivanans's avatar

And as a sober chick, I need some highs! Same, gf! Connection is the best kind!

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Jane Morgan's avatar

Yasss onehundy. Thank you for being one of my favorite connects!

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Courtney Heather's avatar

Yay!!!! Spiritual being having such a human doing dishes experience!

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Jane Morgan's avatar

They just keep comin'! Thank you sweet Court! xoxo

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Rebecca Barry's avatar

I relate to this! Not the dishes part--my husband is like you, but I can ignore them forever. It drives him, and, if I'm honest, most people I've every lived with crazy. The message from AA is wonderful. And, I love it when you go full on human. xoxox

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Jane Morgan's avatar

hahahaha full on human! Right on, glad for the delicious permission. xoxo!

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Jess Smiley's avatar

I love that sink, your heart, and Mike ❤️😘

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Jane Morgan's avatar

Awww thank you Jess! I love all the yous too!!

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Sarah Rathke's avatar

So grateful you’re getting those words in concrete (and recorded), sis!

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Jane Morgan's avatar

Thank you, I record it for you. 💚

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Ruthie Urman's avatar

Hey, Jane…aloha,

I’m like Joe—I enjoy the water play with dishes. Except when it’s late and I am pooped…however I do so agree that awakening to an earthquake kitchen is not kosher. Just thought I’d share, missy.

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